Marriage Planning 1
I’ve said before, and I’ll say again: If I ever get married again (and that would involve something going heinously wrong in my current, awesome marriage, so this is purely hypothetical), I’m pushing to skip the ceremony and reception, taking that money, and heading with my new bride to Cancun for a week.
I’ve had two marriage ceremonies. Both times, I was a monkey in a tux. Both times, we spent way too much money, in order to throw a killer party. And both times, we succeeded. But if I have to do it again? Omar and I are of one mind – at this late stage in the game, I’d take the money and run off to a beach where I could look at my bride in a bikini and chug dollar margaritas all day while getting a horrible case of early onset skin cancer. Then possibly have a small party at our house long after. (Don’t ask me where I’d get a bikini that fits me.)
I know a lot of gun detractors see us armed citizens as Rambo-wannabes, but hey, sometimes that shit works out exactly as us gun nuts forsee it.
Let’s do more Yankee Marshall.
You seen the latest Cyanide and Happiness short?
http://explosm.net/comics/3499/
I want to point out that for those who don’t know, C&H is sometimes -very- caustic satire. I don’t believe the author wants to push for any stance.
Some days I regret funding that.
Heh. We drink with those guys a couple times per year – several of them like to come to our place from time to time.
They’re not anti-gun. They’re more about stirring shit.
I think the best thing to shoot a bear with is a SLR. Possibly a DSLR to get enough shots, but you’d want to get the lighting and aperture correct.
;-]
We did it in our living room. Religious side was a Pagan handfasting, and I made my own wedding outfit, as did she. Civil side was half-a-dozen witnesses in the Justice O Peace’s office.
The success of a marriage is in inverse proportion to the cost of the wedding.
Hot damn, my husband is NEVER getting rid of me… <3
we’re throwing our friends a bull roast. i’m having a bouncy castle. i would be happy with a nice little thing but the fiance’ wants something bigger (and parents want a little tradition thrown in), so we’re going as casual and as inexpensive as i can get. venue is free, we’re not hiring a car, we’re not spending money on flowers.
and, seriously…bouncy castle.
Protect your right to keep and arm bears!
I’ve said elsewhere that I am desperately poor. How poor? My darling bride and I got married in a park, in costumes (!) we made ourselves, by one of her cousins who is a Baptist minister, and had the reception at a nearby buffet, where the few relatives who showed up (mostly my family, which is a lot bigger than hers) bought their own meals and shared in the wedding cake my wife made.
Marriage is a life change. You are asking God to bind you exclusively to somebody in a way that only death can end. (People who don’t understand or actually want the bond don’t actually get it, which is one basis for granting decrees of nullity. And JL, poly definitely puts you in one or both categories.) Life changes as significant as marriage deserve a public ceremony, in part so others now know about the new and supernatural bond between husband and wife. Big life changes like this also deserve a party, but said party should be consistent with the couple’s means, so the incredible expenses piled up in Father of the Bride scenarios are waay out of line.
Anthropologically speaking, marriage is a societal state, where a relationship is formalized by its members in front of their community. The exact requirements of marriage, its responsibilities and obligations vary from culture to culture, but the unifying principle across all cultures is one of societal recognition.
This is in contrast to mating, which is a personal relationship.
Your understanding of marriage might include God, but that doesn’t mean that others may have differing concepts.
1st marriage was monkey tux, reception at high end restaurant on the bay, and cost more than my first 5 cars combined. Was over in 5 years.
Second one happened on the beach with a minister and 2 witnesses. Cost less than a few tanks of gas. 10+ years and still going strong…
J.O.P.? I know that this probably means Justice of the Peace, but my mind jumped immediately to the craigslist definition.
Jews of Peoria?
God damn my city..
Remember – you swore I could be your Best Man so I can rock a tuxedo.
Regarding the link, I think the key point is that the guy WASN’T a Rambo-wannabe. The gun-detractor viewpoint would’ve expected him to empty the clip* into the guy and then reload before running around outside to make sure he didn’t have any buddies to shoot. Like you said, though, what he did was exactly what “us gun nuts” would want to happen if it was us on the scene: a crime got stopped in-progress, a life got (hopefully) saved, the perpetrator is now a guest of the legal system, and the “good guy with a gun” didn’t need to pull the trigger.
…of course, because he didn’t pull the trigger, this wouldn’t show up as a defensive gun use in certain studies I could mention.
* Yes, I misused that intentionally.
Happy birthday, Adam, wherever you are.