The date #5
Nov23
I dated a girl, briefly, whose father owned an Italian restaurant. She took all of her first dates to the place without telling them. When the time came to pay the check, she used it as a test to see if the guy was the type to pay or not, then surprised him with no check at all. Most devious.
Seems our buddy FPS Russia has something new in the works.
I read the comic, then I was surprised because I got really pissed about it. I don’t know why, I guess because she’s so very devious and dishonest, and maybe a little manipulative. I think in real life I’d be pretty sure there’d be no second date.
Seriously, there are guys who would take a girl out on a first date and then not pay the check? How are we still here as a species?
You’d be amazed Henry at how common it’s becoming for today’s youth to split the check on the first date. I think it’s many having a loss of chivalry. I don’t understand it similar to how I don’t understand this hipster thing. God I feel old <–Is 28
On random amusement saw someone post recently on armslist about how they apparently believe the fiscal clifff means the country is going to go into hyper inflation and "to buy all your guns and ammo now while the money is still worth something.
On other random side tangent, is it bad that I look forward to the eventual comic of him getting introduced to her parents?
Before I was married, and actually dating…I didn’t mind if the woman wanted to go Dutch… But I always tried to pick up the check first…even if she had asked me out and not the reverse.
I always found picking up the check was a great way to ensure that there was dessert of some type later
Remember when I asked if she’s so hot to get into his pants, why didn’t they go to her place for dinner? This makes a little more sense now.
Only problem is, if that were me, I’d be wanting to meet there every week after the first date 🙂
Sure way to get yourself dropped like a hot cake.
I like dates who want to buy me dinner/coffee/whatever to show some imagination and not go to the same place every time we meet. There are places I’d be happy to eat all the time, doesn’t excuse lack of imagination in the date though.
OK, I try to think of myself as a reasonably progressive guy on women’s issues, but I really can’t imagine trying to weasel out of paying the bill for a date, especially a first date, as in, “We are beginning the human (or, at least, 21st century Western Cultural) mating ritual. The male seeks to impress the female by displaying his ability to provide food.” After a certain amount of time has passed, as you move from trying to figure out if there’s anything “there” to being a “couple”, it’s a lot more acceptable to split bills, or take turns, as part of this whole complex process is determining your ability to pool your resources amicably, but at the start? Sorry, a few million years of evolutionary tradition screaming “Male show off for female! Female judge male on mating display!” kind of overwhelms all other considerations. No matter how sophisticated our forebrain’s understanding of the cultural and biological imperatives underlying our complex behavior, our hindbrains are still making monkey noises in the background.
Personally I shun tradition, culture, and biology. It’s the ‘forever alone’ method, but at least I don’t go broke wasting my time in average restaurants. I’m probably a misanthrope.
Never quite got girls, huh?
I have had dates blow up on me because I offered to pay the bill. Different excuses, sorry I mean reasons, “don’t you think a girl can’t afford to pay my share?” “Do you think just by buying me dinner I’ll go to bed with you?” and even, “I said I’d go out with you I didn’t say I’d let you pay!”??? It is just too dangerous to do anything chivalrous these days. I once held open a door for a lady who was goi into a department store and got a five minute top of her voice screaming rant on how chauvanistic I was and didn’t I think a woman could open a door for herself. And this is in the middle of a busy city street.
Aziraphael
Dude, sorry if i’m bursting a bubble here, but it’s probably just the girls’ way of getting out of a second date with you. It’s probably less the fact that you’ve offered to pay and more the fact that the date sucked.
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement. 😉
You may be right but there hadn’t been any earlier signs of dissatisfaction.
And two of them did go for a second date and one considerably longer but I never offered to buy dinner again although we did go Dutch a few times.