Perhaps by him failing to mention this arrangement to Heidi while also failing to keep it in his pants around her. While there would be a certain poetic justice there, I doubt she would see it that way, thus invoking the Ire of the Redhead. (Which I can say from plentiful experience is not something you want to invoke.)
If the person themself does not independently want to be a secondary, that’s one of those conversations that just never goes well. It’s one thing for them to say “Look, I have really limited time/am mostly into not-your-gender/have other life priorities” and seek out that role, it’s another to have it foisted upon them. Particularly if it comes with the common new-to-this clumsy “so this is what you can have, take it or leave it” phrasing. Imposing those kind of best-next best favoritism framings has made a lot of people decide that poly is less fun than ferret legging.
I for one wasn’t all that concerned that Mick was “cheating” on Alex, as she had already struck me as probably not being in the same place, so to speak, as Mick imagined. So that wasn’t the issue.
BUT.
I still think Mick was stupid stupid stupid for getting back together in any way with Heidi. That girl’s trouble.
It’s good to see they overcame their failure to communicate.
Nothing like a post-coital glow to take the edge off things.
Have a nice weekend and I’m looking forward to all the craziness to follow!
I’m sure just the start of many conversations and pratfalls.
Failure To Fire: Tap-Rack Banging communication issues.
Well they do both have the same root word, commune.
i get the sick feeling that this too, is completely doomed to fail.
Nothing last forever but the scars they leave on your soul.
Perhaps by him failing to mention this arrangement to Heidi while also failing to keep it in his pants around her. While there would be a certain poetic justice there, I doubt she would see it that way, thus invoking the Ire of the Redhead. (Which I can say from plentiful experience is not something you want to invoke.)
Yeah, I don’t think Heidi the redhead would take too kindly to being the secondary, especially since she was first chronologically.
If the person themself does not independently want to be a secondary, that’s one of those conversations that just never goes well. It’s one thing for them to say “Look, I have really limited time/am mostly into not-your-gender/have other life priorities” and seek out that role, it’s another to have it foisted upon them. Particularly if it comes with the common new-to-this clumsy “so this is what you can have, take it or leave it” phrasing. Imposing those kind of best-next best favoritism framings has made a lot of people decide that poly is less fun than ferret legging.
I for one wasn’t all that concerned that Mick was “cheating” on Alex, as she had already struck me as probably not being in the same place, so to speak, as Mick imagined. So that wasn’t the issue.
BUT.
I still think Mick was stupid stupid stupid for getting back together in any way with Heidi. That girl’s trouble.
This.
Stickest not thy dick in crazy.
Heidi lacks respect – Certainly for others, probably for herself as well.
Bad karma – and other bad things – comes from lack of respect…