Anyone who’s been in a really bad situation like this knows how the sense of denial is overwhelming. You don’t want to believe that it’s reality. And yet, you can’t think of a single explanation that absolves someone you care about from being the culprit.
Personally never been in this situation. A friend of mine was, back in 2001. She found out that her fiancee had been posting videos of the two of them in bed together without her knowledge of the videos even being taken. She also found other videos of him with other women in their bed. I believe her response was to throw all of his possessions out of their house, change the locks, and get blind raging drunk for a week.