Alex’s Response
Sep25
Some of you saw this coming. But only a few. I found it amusing that MOST of the comments left in the previous strips were with suckers who thought along the same lines as Mick: He automatically assumed that he was in a monogamous relationship with Alex. Thing is, Alex never agreed to anything of the sort. From her standpoint, this has been a fairly casual thing.
Don’t worry, this is going to get fun.
Someone sent me this. Now you get to hear it too.
Oh hey, what’s that? Yes, the full first year of FTF is now also available in paperback form! A bit pricey, but it’s 270 pages of full color comics, so hey, what can ya do? Hit it up, peoples, and I will be forever grateful.
i didnt know how it was going to pan out, but the initial coffee introduction gave me a few suspicions … 🙂
saying that, i’m glad you’re doing this in your comic. this is all still new to me as well (march) and the amount i people i have to sit down and explain it to them…
I don’t know whether it’s comforting or discomfiting, but that part never gets better. I’ve been poly for very nearly my entire adult dating life (since ~1996), and I still do a lot of explaining. To my partners, their partners/my partners’ friends (“yes, I really am okay with it, he’s not a cheating scumbag…”)… yeah. Everyone’s implementation is different and setting expectations is super important! Heh. So I have a lot of sympathy for Mick and Alex… and Alex might not even be going for poly! (I am pretty sure Mick wasn’t. Ahahaha fail.)
Wow, two poly “raven”s on the same website… lol… your comment even meshes with mine.. so… SPEAK ON! 🙂
Hahaha! Small Internet. Nice to meet you.
(At least neither of us is the whiny friend-zone Raven barista from the comic, heh.)
Quoth the ravens, polyamore?
*slow clap*
Mick’s a bonehead, but at least he’s a standup bonehead. We all knew he was gonna eff it all up, but I gotta say that this is probably more mature than most webcomics would treat this situation. Kudos!
‘They can work it out, they can get it together’…Perhaps a compromise could be arranged. Umm…yeah call it an arrangement.
Now we are getting into Sexy Losers territory.
Polyamory isn’t anywhere near as bad and wrong as what Sexy Losers used to do. For one thing, everyone in that bed is still among the living and, as far as we know, no one is related to each other.
YEP! And yet I miss that comic sooooo much.
Didn’t this come up in the coffee shop around about when they met?
Mick thought he was in a monogamous relationship and, under that assumption, cheated. Intentions matter, he still fucked up.
Actually, Mick didn’t make any play for Alex until after he broke it off with Heidi. So, unless you consider coffee, beers, shots and music cheating then Mick is really a stand-up guy. This is why he is currently beating his head against the service counter at the shop.
Anon’s point is that what Mick did just recently with Heidi was, as he perceived it, cheating on Alex. The fact that Alex is fine with it (for any reason) doesn’t make it less wrong.
The coffee shop comment was separate, referring (I assume) to Zera’s greeting of Elle (Alex) at Goffy Coffee and how that might have foreshadowed this. (…or might not; I’ve known people who greeted each other like that but weren’t sleeping together.)
This is going to come up. You have my word.
Yeah how come he forgot about her obvious relationship with that couple in the coffee shop?
I didn’t.
I agree with the above. Intentions matter.
Well that’s an interesting twist that we’ve all wanted at some point in our lives 😛
Aaand just start a STD testing tab at your local clinic…
If you’re having sex with multiple partners, you should be getting tested, regardless. And your chances of catching an STD in a *closed* poly arrangement like a triad or a quad? Are about as low as they are in a monogamous-pair relationship. People in monogamous marriages cheat, too.
So you’re saying that the odds of an event occurring when you have three or four participants is not higher than if you only have one, ceteris paribus? Might want to review your probability theory! 😉
Anyone know what language the song is in? Finnish, maybe?
In my opinion even if you think you’re in a monogamous relationship you should get checked regularly.
Ayup.
What if you’re in a monogamous relationship with yourself? 😉
Wash your hands. A lot.
You know, I have this impression that other people think differently (and in such a way that the statement would be meant as some sort of zinger, perhaps), but to me that’s a statement roughly equivalent to “Aaaaand just start an eye exam tab at your local optometrist…” Like, okay, yes I’m on the more proactive end of things regarding my health? I get recommended screenings more or less according to the appropriate schedule? This is worth talking about because why?
If you start sticking your eyes into someone’s vajayjay, absolutely. 🙂
Mick now has two choices: 1. He can either freak out onece again and blow off another relationship because the woman in question isn’t as straight laced and sexually conservative as he is, or, 2. He can learn to adapt. And find out life is a hell of a lot more interesting, a lot more fun, than how he’s been living. To start, he can keep things going with both of them. (And who knows who else?)
Had to smile at today’s strip – it brought back a lot of memories from my college days. Forty years ago. Life was a lot better, a lot more interesting, then.
I saw it, but not with the dude with the bad facial hair…the other girl yeah. LOL But I suppose I’m projecting…:D
She may not be involved with the dude — previous comments about Mick being the first guy in her life since everything went to hell suggest she’s got a thing with Zera, but is less sexual with the guy. I’d bet on it being a V there and not a triangle.
Agreed. He says something like “yeah, they do that “
Well, that would be harsh: loaning out your wife, and not getting any “interest”.
Alex isn’t exactly un-interesting as eye candy alone. Also, there’s a reason there’s a market for lesbian porn among straight guys.
And yet, there are happy poly V configurations out there.
Naah – this is unsurprising. But utterly separate as to whether going back to see that psycho Heidi again…. That was a bad idea whether or not he was single.
They *both* should have been straight up front with each other. I’ve thankfully not made Alex’s mistake, since I like to ask at the beginning of a serious relationship if it is going to be open/casual or more serious, though I have made other mistakes. Thankfully, I don’t have to worry much anymore, my current boyfriend and I have been together 7 and a half years and we’re well on the same page.
I hope Mick’s going to adapt. Alex seems like fun. 🙂
I just hope Heidi isn’t going to start being the psycho ex.
Well, it DOES take a lot of the pressure to be ‘faithful’ off him.
Maybe.
Well, she wasn’t lying to him. It just didn’t come up in casual conversation. Now, I’m like Mick. I assume the relationship is monogamous. However, I run down the list of relationship questions about the second date.
I love that you’ve put poly out there for the world 😀 I admit, I was surprised. I didn’t see it coming. Heh…
In my experience, yes, once you have sex with someone the standard assumption is that you’re hooking up with only them unless you specifically state otherwise. That… that was a fun lesson to learn in my earlier years.
Actually, I’m trying to figure out which part is “going to suck.” Alex explaining she’s already in a relationship, or slapping some sense into Mick regarding how unstable Heidi is.
Probably the bit where she has to explain that he shouldn’t be apologising, along with apologising herself for failure to communicate.
Shouldn’t suck all that much, though – unless she had plans for him she’s afraid won’t pan out now. After all, she’s got him on the back foot.
How about the worry over Mick’s last statement in panel #1 and the potential train wreck she is seeing form it.
O_o
BwaaaaHaHaHaHaHaHHa*cough*cough*cough*cough* heh..heh… 🙂
Did. Not. See. This. Coming.
Note to self: See eye doctor, soonest.
If Mick flipped at Heidi broadcasting sex pics without his consent, I doubt Mick would be able to handle “Yeah, I have a girlfriend as well (…and also another boyfriend).” Not sure on the last part; since the dynamic is unclear. Of course, maybe he likes Alex enough to overlook a few things once truth comes to light, who knows?
I have a bad feeling about Omar’s up-coming thing, like maybe his dream was granted by the Corrupt-a-Wish genie.
Poor old Mick. He’s such a sweet innocent young thing. Definitely playing out of his league here.
Will he jump in, or run away screaming? I can’t wait to find out.
Oh my – this reminds me SO much of a relationship I had in 1982. The last panel reminds me of one of our dates, at a midnight showing of Rocky Horror! If you had drawn theatre seats it would have almost been perfect. Toss rice. Great memories and it was a whole lot of ‘waking up’ for me. No regrets.
Just ordered the book, by the way.
Ten thousand blessings upon your house.
“I agree with the above comments“, that should have been..
Hey how come we can’t edit or at least delete our own comments here?
Because people tailgate.
Um..but I don’t even like beer?
Enlighten me pls. Urbandic did nada for me.
You ought to know that I’ve now put Ensiferum on my Amazon Wish List.